- Are you a person who gets annoyed by all the talk about positive thinking and positive psychology?
- Do you secretly wish I and others in my field would turn down the happy?
Each new year seems to bring with it obligatory goal setting. I suspect that you have suffered through weeks of conversations about new dreams, new hopes, and bigger goals. I also suspect you are now sitting back and waiting for everyone to prove you right – positive thinking and talking DO NOT help you achieve your goals. In a few weeks, all those big talkers will surrender and get back to business.
Articulate a Wish + Describe in detail the desired Outcome achieved when the wish has materialized + Describe in detail all the Obstacles to achieving your desired outcome + Make a Plan to overcome the obstacles and plans to achieve the desired wish = WOOP.
Oettingen’s work is backed by extensive research and easily digestible in her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking. A faster way to learn the method is to watch this explainer video created by Oettinger’s WOOP lab. I will warn you ahead of time. This video is designed for those ready to do real work, at a slower pace, so the steps are learned and understood.
Lastly, take a look as Oettingen works with someone I perceive as introverted to see what the process looks like in real life.
Before I close, let me connect what WOOP has to do with PERMA and The Business of Flourishing: Whether you are introverted or extroverted, the key variables of PERMA (positive emotions, engagement relationships, meaning, and achievement) are the same. Continually finding ways to shift your thinking from a stuck or blocked position to one where you are building toward any and all of the variables of PERMA will increase your potential well-being and life satisfaction. Simply, PERMA holds the pieces. WOOP is one of the ways to access the pieces more easily. Easier is better!